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What to do when EVERYTHING is not going as planned…

On September 23rd, I shared the following with my work facebook friends…

“In the last 4 weeks, my wife and I have…

  • found a new home
  • discovered we had less than 2 weeks to pack and move
  • discovered 5 days before we were to move we needed to change our platform, select and implement a new one, transfer the website, and debug the I-didn’t-know-it-did-that sh-tuff and have it up and running as we would not have internet for a long period (see VIVO comment below)…
  • visited 3 hospitals 6 times and saw 11 doctors for my wife’s kidney stone that was leaving her in tears, had me searching for a doctor that had laser skills to play star wars with a 8 mm stone that just kept growing (hospitals were 2 to 4 hours drive one-way)…
  • maintained the social media platforms for 2 upcoming conferences
  • discovered our email (1000+ a day) hadn’t been working for a week and fixed it 2 days later…
  • sorted out interviews for publication both on our blog and another…
  • discovered not all our furniture made it from the old to the new house…
  • discovered that the premier Brazilian internet provider VIVO would require 15 to 20 DAYS to transfer an account to a new home as well as connect everything (Seriously ‪#‎VIVO‬? Nigeria can do this in 3…)
  • finally found a doctor to play star wars with my wife’s stone, though my wife didn’t appreciate being dubbed Battleship Gallactica (can you blame her?)…
  • and entertained nearly 30 friends to celebrate our new home last Friday…

“Can I get back to writing now???”

Apparently Not

As it is now 2 weeks later and the fun continues…

My wife discovered she had FIVE stones waiting in the queue the day after I wrote the above note…

She has been eating 1 FULL watermelon a day, 3 cups of lemonade (no sugar, water, a pinch of salt to reduce the tartness [yes, I know, she was better off with the sugar!]) and one cup of water with a 1/4 cup of organic apple cider vinegar… and has developed a baby-belly for the first time in her life… let’s just say this hasn’t helped her psyche very much..

Visited 2 more hospitals and 3 more doctors as the specialist is 2-1/2 hours drive from our home — none could offer anything to relieve the pain, none had any experience playing Star Wars with the stones…

Our web site experienced a couple of days of downtime as WordPress now has a this thing called a hearbeat API and with the new server environment it was chewing up the CPU’s on our 48 cores and had to be shut down until we (the host provider and me) could figure out how to either control this thing or kill it altogether…

For the most part, my wife was vertical for the last 2 weeks getting foot messages (foot reflexology works!) as well as back and pelvic massages to reduce the pain — our site returned online but we could only focus on social media whenever I had enough time to do so…

Late last week, we elected to take up camp with her family for a few weeks as they are closer to the specialist — the “yuh, but” to all this is the street they live on is limited to 2 MBS for internet connections (it’s a Brazil thing, don’t ask as it will take a morning to explain). We arrive and discover the 2 MBS is a thing of the past — it is now ONE MBS… with the actual connection being near 0.1 to 0.3 MBS…

Folks, we are talking dial up speed on a modem and router that have the latest technology and can hand 300 MBS… Picture an astronaut on a horse — that’s where we were at…

The internet service provider VIVO received an earful from a very ugly American and after spending more than 3 hours talking to sales and the regional manager, the entire street was returned to 2 MBS 2 days later (for some reason, things changed very quickly once I told the regional manager that I was a publisher and editor for a technology blog which is read in 160+ countries — go figure 🙂 )…

A stone finally passed on 7-October and was 7 mm in diameter, 3 mm larger than most doctors said would be necessary for it to pass (4 mm)… and it had been as large as 11 mm…

My wife is much better (and happier!) but she is not out of the woods yet, 4 more to go and we still don’t know why she has turned into a rock making machine. Hopefully our visits with a few of the doctors that ordered blood analysis next week will provide some solutions…

Meanwhile, she is sleeping and I’m trying to catch up on the last 6 weeks…

And after what happened when I asked my question 2 weeks ago, I’m not going to ask anything — I’m just going to do it….

 

What did we learn through all this?

 

Control our expectations and time line

There are times we have to forget focusing on the month, the week, even the day and manage what we can one hour at a time — then see what we gained and what we need to focus upon for the next hour, even if it just some thing small (like a massage or cutting watermelon)…

 

Regain Perspective Through Relativity As Well As Our Own History

To throw things back into perspective, when my wife wasn’t in pain we would talk about and search on Google for images of people that were much less fortunate than we are… as well as reflecting on how little we had when I first arrived in Brasil (another story for another time) and how we are doing now…

We also happened upon a few movies on Netflix such as The Good Lie that put aLOT of things into perspective real quick…

 

We don’t wish anything like this upon anyone but it is good to know that there are 3 things that do work very well under very stressful times…

  • be flexible and selective on what and where you focus
  • be persistent in getting back up each time (it’s not the fall that counts, it’s the bounce) as well as discovering what progress you can make, even if it is only one hour at a time (on the battlefield that drills down to the minute)…
  • where and what you focus upon and the degree of your persistence (along with many prayers) will determine your level of determination

One More Detail…

My wife insisted I go live with one of our distant friends who had a solid business internet connection setup so the business wouldn’t suffer… She quickly asked why when I refused as we have put 3 years of our lives (10,000+ hours) into our business and could risk losing much of what we gained. My answer came just as quickly…

A business can fail and be replaced,
A spouse is God given gift that can’t.
We treasure what we protect,
where we choose to invest our time,
and in providing for those who need us the most.
He provides for the birds,
He will provide for us…

 

Each day as the sun rises, we have mountains to climb — some old ones, some new ones. We can see the beauty God has created and painted for us from any level, but the mountain top has always proven to be the best…

mountain-sunrise

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